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February 14, 2022

Valentine’s Day on Lanai

In honor of Valentine’s Day, we asked couples around town what the secret is to a long and happy relationship. Here’s what they had to say:

Jo and Paul Alconcel

Jo and Paul Alconcel

What’s the secret to a long and happy relationship?
The secret to a long and happy relationship for us is to love each other, always forgive and have patience and remember to show appreciation.

What’s the one thing you cherish the most about your partner?
Jo – I cherish Paul’s strength and leadership.
Paul – I cherish Jo’s support.

Do you have any special rules in your relationship (example: never go to bed angry)?
Never go to bed angry, never hold a grudge & forgive each other.

What is the most important thing you’ve learned being married to your significant other?
What we both learned is to be thankful and have patience.

What’s your favorite thing to do with your partner?
Our favorite thing to do with each other is enjoying the outdoors here on Lanai. Whether it be camping, hunting, fishing or picnics with each other, our children and grandchildren.

What piece of advice do you have for other couples?
Advice for other couples is to always love and respect each other.


Alan and Denise Fernandez

Alan & Denise Fernandez

What’s the secret to a long and happy relationship?
The secret to a long and happy relationship is communication, compromise, commitment and having the Lord in the center of your marriage. Having fun and making memories together.

What’s the one thing you cherish the most about your partner?
Alan: She is warm and affectionate.
Denise: He is generous and compassionate.

Do you have any special rules in your relationship (example: never go to bed angry)?
Always be positive! Don’t keep score of trivial things.

What’s your favorite thing to do with your partner?
We love to travel, hunt, cook and bake together.

What piece of advice do you have for other couples?
Be patient, be kind, forgive, lots of hugs & kisses, laughter, and always say “I love you!”


Regina and Wane Ayonayon

Regina and Wane Ayonayon

What’s the secret to a long and happy relationship?
Communication & commitment for sure. We sure didn’t know that from the start (that’s for sure), but learned that we had to communicate & LISTEN in order for our relationship to strive and to you have to be IN LOVE.

What’s the one thing you cherish the most about your partner?
That he still makes me laugh and he has always had my back.

Do you have any special rules in your relationship (example: never go to bed angry)?
My rule… is if we have nothing nice to say, don’t say anything at all until you have calmed down. Because once the harsh words are spoken, it can’t be taken back.

What is the most important thing you’ve learned being married to your significant other?
That he has more patience than I and that he loves me unconditionally.

What’s your favorite thing to do with your partner?
Hmm, I don’t know if there is a favorite thing? We like to travel when we can, we hang out at home or when in the mood go to the beach and spending time with the grandkids for sure and family as well.

What piece of advice do you have for other couples?
I’m not sure if I am qualified to give advice, but be a friend & a partner for sure and always… Love with your heart, Laugh for your soul & listen with your ears.


Al and Tina Lopez

Albert and Tina Lopez

What’s the secret to a long and happy relationship?
We both agree it’s communication to a long relationship and more so for us by having God in our lives.

What’s the one thing you cherish the most about your partner?
One thing we cherish about each partner is we understand each other, and where we’re coming from. And we don’t know if it’s because we had similar upbringing and experiences growing up, but we are thankful we have that.

Do you have any special rules in your relationship (example: never go to bed angry)?
We do also agree about not going to bed angry, but we also have a little twist to that. If we are angry still before bedtime, don’t say anything if you don’t have anything nice to say. Hopefully the night will calm down the situation, talk it out the next day and move on.

What is the most important thing you’ve learned being married to your significant other?
One of the best things we’ve learned from each other is to respect one another. We both have views on things, and we make the best of it, and try to meld them together benefiting both of us.

What’s your favorite thing to do with your partner?
The one thing we like to do is travel! Domestic and International! We’ve been to Europe, Eastern Europe, Asia and across North America. We visited places like Macedonia, Turkey, Greece, Bulgaria, Switzerland, Germany, Spain, Italy, Austria, Luxembourg, Netherlands, Korea, Philippines, and many more other countries.

What piece of advice do you have for other couples?
We both adamantly agree that a long meaningful relationship is achieved through respect, communication, love, and definitely with God in our lives! P.S. “Wishing my lifetime Valentine (Valentina) A Very Happy & Blessed Birthday!!!


Neal and Leila Tamashiro

Neal and Leila Tamashiro

What’s the secret to a long and happy relationship?
Our life together has always revolved around securing the happiness and well-being of our children, and now includes their families as well.

What’s the one thing you cherish the ost about your partner?
Leila: that he’s an overall great person.
Neal: that she’s a great mother and grandmother.

Do you have any special rules in your relationship (example: never go to bed angry)?
Just let the irritating little things go.

What is the most important thing you’ve learned being married to your significant other?
Nobody’s perfect and it’s what’s on the inside that counts.

What’s your favorite thing to do with your partner?
Travel to visit our son and daughter, their spouses, and our grandchildren & granddog.

What piece of advice do you have for other couples?
Appreciate and take care of each other. Laugh a lot.


Matthew and Laura Mano

Matthew and Laura Mano

What’s the secret to a long and happy relationship?
God’s word of love binds us forever.

What’s the one thing you cherish the most about your partner?
She’s humble, loving, kindhearted with a lot of emotions for family and friends.

Do you have any special rules in your relationship (example: never go to bed angry)?
No! We are equal in every.

What is the most important thing you’ve learned being married to your significant other?
She is the backbone of our family.

What’s your favorite thing to do with your partner?
Hunting, camping, fishing and going on vacation to Maine and Vegas.

What piece of advice do you have for other couples?
Remember! Love her or him unconditionally no matter the trials and tribulations. Treat each day with your precious like it’s your last day together.


William and Sandy Patterson

William and Sandy Patterson

What’s the secret to a long and happy relationship?
The secret to a long and happy relationship is celebrating your partner’s strengths and try to ignore the weaknesses. Have patience with each other and let go of the small silly things and focus on the big picture.

What’s the one thing you cherish the most about your partner?
Sandy: William’s compassion for people. He has the kindest soul of anyone I’ve ever met.
William: Sandy’s bright light of happiness, she’s always laughing and smiling (most of the time, LOL)

Do you have any special rules in your relationship (example: never go to bed angry)?
We really don’t have any rules, but we always try to show respect, even during a disagreement and try not to call each other names that we will regret later. Also, we try not to involve other people in our disagreements.

What is the most important thing you’ve learned being married to your significant other?
The most important thing we’ve learned being married to each other is it’s hard work to have a long relationship. We try to take some time to enjoy each other and our families and the special place we live. This is hard because we both love what we do for work.

What’s your favorite thing to do with your partner?
Our favorite thing to do with each other is hang out at our favorite spot at the beach on a clear, calm, warm, beautiful day.

What piece of advice do you have for other couples?
A piece of advice for other couples is to respect each other’s quirks, likes, dislikes, and respect what each of you do for work. Respect everyone in each other’s families and find something you like about each family member instead of focusing on the thing you don’t approve of. Build relationships that focus on the positive and stay away from things that start wars. (religion and politics and vaccinations, oh my)


Jimmy and Angie Fernandez

Jimmy and Angie Fernandez

What’s the secret to a long and happy relationship?
Do nice things for each other, respect each other, always tell each other the truth. No lies and don’t hide anything from each other.

What’s the one thing you cherish the most about your partner?
Her integrity, always hard working and very kind and loving.

Do you have any special rules in your relationship (example: never go to bed angry)?
Don’t overspend, always say sorry, be honest.

What is the most important thing you’ve learned being married to your significant other?
After 38 years of marriage, you need to trust one another. Don’t keep on asking the same questions or be nagging.

What’s your favorite thing to do with your partner?
Play with our granddaughters, visit our kids, enjoy our home and travel together.

What piece of advice do you have for other couples?
Love each other and always say sorry. Don’t forget birthdays, anniversaries and do date notes and do things together.

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